What do you think it's better, whether to be obsessed with the food, or to be infatuated with sex and fetishes? I haven't decided yet what to do when I be wealthy, whether I'm going to binge and overindulge with chinese food, which I love, regardless I'd get fat or to take care of my body and overindulge with my male foot fetish, and living only for the sex.
Which of these options is the best? |
You need a medium with everything. There is nothing wrong with a little splurging on much of anything. You can have your Chinese food, but you should still eat healthy on a regular basis and get plenty of exercise. You don't have to exercise in conventional ways, either. You can hike, bike ride, take up a sport in evenings after work - you don't have to do the regular treadmill workout stereotype that you think of when you hear the word "workout".
You can indulge in your fetish, and live in a sexually free environment - but like I said before, there needs to be a medium. It's going to wear on you at some point, and you're going to feel empty inside without someone to share your life with. Unfortunately that feeling happens with everyone at least once at some point in their life. Do not dismiss relationships just because you're a very sexual being.
You can be a sexual being and be in a committed relationship - as long as you and your partner practice the art of seduction. As long as you keep it fresh and know how to seduce your partner (and vice versa) you should have no problem having an emotionally and physically gratifying relationship.
So you can have your Chinese food, your sex and your fitness. You just need to know how to balance everything. |
How common are same sex fetishes without being actually gay? I couldn't believe it when I overheard this dude talking about another guy's legs at the gym,
he and his wife are there all the time, but he was talking to a trainer about someone's legs like he was obsessed, the wife
was nowhere in sight that day. |
Maybe he just wishes he had legs like the guy. He was talking to the TRAINER, the person who would help him develop a programs to get legs like that. It's called PROGRESS that straight guys can talk about another guys legs without worrying about being assumed to be gay.
@om nom nom: You are sooooo wrong, muscular, hairy legs are very sexy. |
What do you say to people if you're shy/quiet but, have strange sex fetishes? Hey,
How does one put the word out say, to people of interest that they're interested in a lot of things sexually yet, they're very, very vanilla b/c they have just not found the right person to share those experiences with?
What if you're really, really shy but, you have all of this pent-up imagination? How do you convey it all w/out looking like a freak? |
That is a very hard question. There are sites devoted to almost every fetish imaginable. You may want to talk to them to see how they deal with it or even find someone who likes it too.
My bf likes chunky girls but he is very popular so he considers it a fetish. He explained it to me and it took a while to get used to it. He liked girls to gain weight and it was weird at first but now it's fun. You just need to find someone with an open mind but being as shy as you say, I think the internet is where u should start.
If you can get sexual without your fetish, that may be your only choice. Sorry =[ |
Foot Fetishes, Sex, Or Attraction: What Is The Cause? For some people who don't want to engage in physical sex, foot fetishes in the form of licking, kissing, massaging in soap, tickling, smelling or worshipping is something of value.
But for some strange reason, its uncertain why people may become sexually or any form of obssessed with human feet with are constant stink, dirty, requirement wwashing, and is meant to be unclean. Thus, is feet fetishes really normal or something just too complicated to answer. |
There are many fetishes. Fetishes are a normal everyday thing or object that wouldn't normally cause sexual pleasure, but it does for some people for some reason. There is everything from foot fetishes to tickling to whips to even food or a person's ears.
They think that the foot is the most common fetish because in the brain what controls the sensation in the foot is right next to what controls the sensation in the genitals. If you think about it you can say worst things about genitals. Why do people get sexually excited with an organ that is used to expel bodily waste from their or someone else's system?
I don't have any foot fetish but I do know that sometimes the sex organs aren't very clean. They constantly have bacteria on them and ,like feet, has to be washed every day. I don't know about you but my feet don't constantly stink. If yours too you should wear socks to absorb the sweat. anyway I hope I gave you an answer you were looking for.
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Are same-sex foot fetishes among straight people too? I know that most women have shoe fetishes, some teenagers have sneaker fetishes, yknow
always being trendy sort of thing. But recently I came across some same sex websites that actually shocked me, because these men and/or women claim to be straight and into each others feet? |
It would be an utter paradox. A fetish is a sexual fixation on something not conventionally viewed as sexual. So how could someone be sexually fixated on a trait not available to the sex for which they're oriented?
To me, it sounds like another tortured, convoluted rationalization of a conflicted individual to assert that s/he is straight when s/he is clearly not straight. |
Do your guyhood expeirences determine your sex life/ fetishes when you get older? Does the type of guyhood (good bad ect and certain experiences/traumas ) effect the type of sex or fetishes you have as you get older?
I was watching something on tv where this lady had like a fetish of dressing guys up like horses and she was saying that when she was younger she didn't have anyone(her mom was a drug addict and her father walked out on them ) so her only place she felt happy was with her horses at her barn...and i saw a connection there...
so that's why i was wondering this?? |
I've heard that bestiality arises from having pets around and no sexual outlet (im fuzzy on when this takes place since you wouldnt need an outlet too early on in guyhood).
The same goes for incest and blurred lines in sibling relationships (i.e. no other guyren around to 'discover' leaving only your sibling)
Can't remember the common causes of more extreme philias like necrophilia.
I've also read that psychologically, good events are outweighed by bad events at a ratio of 3:1. So bad sexual experiences tend to be much more memorable and influential than good ones.
Last of all, based on the idea of imprinting. Often our initial experiences (in this case sexual ones) become the model by which we judge everything else. So the first thing you do sexually, you do most. E.g. if a couple starts off in particular position, they're likely to do that one most frequently (I can personally attest to that). |
Why do I have these strange sex fetishes? Being hit, tied up and gagged. Being degraded, spit on, slapped. Having a knife held to my throat, a gun to my head. I really get off on the rape fantasy but I had a completely normal guyhood? Am I just a pervert?!?! |
There is absolutely NOTHING to be worried about! You only need to worry if you try to get yourself into situations where someone will actually rape you or seriously hurt you. If you are enjoying these fetishes in the privacy of your own home with someone you TRUST (really trust), then this is perfectly normal.
(1) Domination: Many women in America (and a lot of men too!) possess the desire to be dominated. This often occurs in women who are in high-power or high-stress jobs where they are usually the ones dominating (or the "boss" of) other people. They are unable to satisfy their inner desire to be dominated in the workplace, so they seek it in their sex life. Inversely, people who are homemakers or live very safe, quiet, or even boring jobs and lives often desire to have the tables turned so that they can satisfy and entertain their dominant side. Both feelings are perfectly normal. Just make sure you aren't getting into situations where you are subject to great bodily harm.
Rape Fantasy: The rape fantasy is a very common one with a lot of women, although since our society categorizes rape as "wrong," a lot of women don't like to admit they fantasize about it. This is simply another form of wanting to be dominated. A rape is simply that: it is a violent, forceful sexual domination of another person. Rape, itself, is wrong. Having the fantasy is not. It may simply mean that you would like someone to sit behind the wheel of your sexual experience, to control what happens. Again, just make sure you are entertaining this fantasy in the safety of your home with a lover you TRUST and know very well. Once you find yourself getting into situations where you hope you'll truly be raped by a stranger, your fetish has become dangerous and it is time to seek help. |
Why do some White guys have slave master fetishes with sex? I am not a black American, I am dominican! I have to say this all the time.why are the white guys here so freaky & weird? |
| Maybe it's all the leather you wear and the high heels which confuses them. Try wearing jeans. |
What are some of the worlds weirdest sex fetishes? Just curious:) |
| People can have fetishes for pretty much anything.... I've heard poo and pee fetishes, diapers, pregnant women, boots, high heels, pvc, vinyl eating... Mines are latex and lycra... they're both a huge turn on for me |
How do I suggest to my wife that I want to spice up our sex life with fantasies/fetishes? What if she isn't open to my suggestions. I am getting anxious because we have not been very adventurous lately... |
| She is your wife.Your life partner. It`s you and her against the world. If you can`t talk to her about something like that then you have worse problems than that. Besides,you`ll never know unless you ask. Just start off easy.Don`t jump into the freaky stuff until you know she`ll go for it.Try asking her if she has any ideas on how you two can spice it up. |